A Secret For The Men: Foreplay Is A Woman's Bestfriend!

Before I began writing this Sunday’s topic I had to ask women and men their opinions concerning this mature subject. First, I asked my ladies what is the most exciting, mind blowing, amazing, fulfilling part of love making for them. Out of the 21 women that I asked 17 answered: foreplay. While the other 4 answered: reaching their climax. That makes sense. However I would have to agree with the foreplay. It makes it electrifying and it makes the urge more compelling. Foreplay is what brings women to their state of climax. It is much easier for a man to reach that destination than it is for a woman. So why are men so surprised to find that their women have fewer orgasms than them when they are doing the do?! Women need more! We cannot just become aroused and stay aroused we need more! Much more! We need to be tampered with a little added with a smudge of affection, a tiny bit of touching, and a substantial amount of kissing on our skin. We want to stay active the entire time from start to finish. However, getting on top of us, behind us or however you choose to fulfill YOUR needs does not give us much satisfaction. So again...we WANT MORE.

FOREPLAY is a woman’s best friend. Now we cannot blame the men for not pleasing our requests of foreplay because most of us women do not make it known. I asked 20 men if they engage in foreplay before sex and guess what? 17 men said if the woman asked then yes but if she never suggested foreplay then they got right to business. So can we blame our men for the lack of communication on our part? Men are not mind readers nor are they body readers. So if you desire more before getting straight to the sex why not tell that to your man. It’s important to be comfortable with each other when it comes to sexual requests. When communication lacks, both parties will be faking how great it is. We can act as if we do not fake the fulfillment of our sexual encounters but I am pretty sure that on more than one occasion you have found yourself so bored that you faked the orgasm in desperate need to end the catastrophe. Intimacy is supposed to be a satisfying, mind-blowing, body tingling encounter and we decrease that pleasure when we fail to communicate our wants. If you do not feel comfortable communicating your sexual cravings to your partner then the both of you do not need to be having sex!

It makes you think. Has intimacy become more casual? What I mean is - are there no more occasions of candlelight, hot oil body massages, intimate bubble baths, or soothing music that sets the mood? What about making love on the beach? Or even a romantic encounter in the shower? Do these intimate mood setters not exist anymore? Is this not a part of foreplay? We cannot just link foreplay to physical touching, kissing and teasing. Foreplay comes in many forms. Setting the mood for a romantic night can fall into the category of foreplay. Foreplay is not only a set of intimate physical acts to build up sexual arousal but it is also a set of intimate PSYCHOLOGICAL acts to build up sexual arousal. So why do we skip the romancing and dining. Are we so quick to “get it in” that we refuse to cherish the body and all of its pleasures?

Foreplay is not only for the ladies - men love it as well, especially with the woman they love. There’s nothing like greeting your man after a hard day of work THE RIGHT WAY. Standing in the doorway with your sexy lingerie on and those pumps that he loves so much. Having your manicure and pedicure on point and taking time to turn that jungle into a paradise, not to forget getting that haircut or extensions that he finds to be so sexy! Now this is greeting your man the right way! Do our hard workingmen not deserve it? And for my men, the same goes for you. After your woman has been with the kids all day, and cleaning and cooking a hot meal for you I am sure she wants more than a tap on the shoulder in the middle of the night. Get a babysitter and wine and dine her not just for the night but why not for the day? Do things that you have not been able to do since the kids and the job has taken up so much time and energy. Make her feel young again and pleasure her from head to toe. All of this falls into foreplay. You are arousing your partner physiologically. What the mind feels the body soon follows. Therefore as they become psychologically aroused their body will eventually follow suite. And I hope you are ready because foreplay can lead to the most astonishing sex that you will ever experience.

So do not be shy in relaying the message of your needs and sexual desires and dreams to your partner. Let them know what you want to do and what you love. In the end it will better your relationship. The attractiveness will keep burning and your yearning desire for your partner is going to be NON STOP. Give it a try. Tell your partner how you like it from start to finish. Let them perform and lets stop making sex so casual with our loves and lets spice it up with some fun between the sheets.

The Written Words Of AJT.