It's not
hard to love someone wholeheartedly. The problem is we forget too soon. We
forget what made us love them in the first place, we forget when we fell in
love with them and that spark becomes old and tends to be ignored. The only
thing that should change overtime with love is the increased amount of it. Not
the way we treat our lover, not the way we see our lover and most importantly
not the loving gestures we bestow upon our partner. If it does then was it ever
really love?
We are
all victims of it; we court our partners in the beginning, we fall in love with
them and overtime our love becomes more of a business. We marry, we have
children and the loving gestures and all of the things we did to win our loves
become outdated. We become victims of
time. Time and the fortunate feeling of having someone to come home to hardens
us and tricks our minds into believing the promise of tomorrow when really
there is no promise of tomorrow.
This
leads me to writing this blog article- in hopes that the lovers may understand
the importance of showing their appreciation to their partners everyday. Love has no days off and if it needs any days off then you
need to reevaluate your definition of love. Love yearns for presence. It does not need
presence but it yearns for it continuously. If the presence of your lover
overtime becomes unnecessary then you too have become a victim of time.
Time has
a funny way of sucking the gratitude from our hearts. We become drenched in
routine. If you and your partner have children you become used to waking up,
making them breakfast, getting them to school and you off to work on time. We
forget when we wake up to roll over and simply kiss our loved one good
morning because we have been blessed to wake up another day next to them. We forget to stare at our loved ones as they sleep and realize how
lucky we are to have someone to go to sleep with. This is how time defeats us;
it drags us into repetition and we begin to take everything for granted because
it is familiar to us.
It is not
until something is lost, unusual, or caused in pain that we truly appreciate
it. Why is this? And why does it take an unfortunate event in love for us to
realize our negligence towards our partners and our lack of showing
appreciation to them? Why does it take tragedy, unfaithfulness, or hurtful
words to wake us up and realize we need to love our partner better?
Long
distance relationships are becoming very familiar in our society and you would
think that these would be the individuals who were appreciative of their love
more than those loving in presence. However, those in long distance
relationships also fall victim to time. The video chats become unnecessary because
both parties become “too comfortable”. The sweet phone calls during the day
become forgotten because a Facebook status told them exactly what their partner
was doing. Flower deliveries, sweet
emails, and long Skype dates become obsolete because the courting is no longer
applicable. Then they wonder why they begin feeling insignificant, unfulfilled
and empty in their relationships. Long distance relationships are the hardest
ones to succeed – this is not because of lack of faithfulness, but lack of
attention, love and appreciation.
Distance does not pull two hearts apart, the
ones involved do. Distance does not make you unfaithful. Love that falls into
these untrustworthy traps do so because they lack fulfillment and the number
one lacking gesture is appreciation. We do not forget to be thankful we just
forget to show how thankful we are.
I know
the days seem long when you are caring for your children, if you are newly
married, or just trying to juggle school and work. We get so caught up in our
daily schedules that we place more time in temporary things (work, school,
bills) and less time to something that can be eternal – LOVE. We need to stop
neglecting our loves and we need to show our appreciation daily. A simple “I
love you” should be the first thing you say to your partner when you two awake
in the morning and the last thing you say when you two lay to bed at night.
Men, send her flowers and a card, take her out to dinner, give her a break from
the kids. Ladies, make his favorite meal, give him a break from the kids, make
him feel like a man at ALL times.
Showing
appreciation is not hard because we already appreciate our partners but time
makes it hard to remember. Time builds familiarity but it is imperative to
remember to never let time take away from your love. Do not let the clock drag in
neglect. Love everyday; give everyday, show your gratefulness everyday. Not
sometimes but ALWAYS.
The
Written words of AJT
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DIVORCE AND MARITAL BREAKTHROUGH
It all started when my husband cheated on me with another woman unknowing to him that the woman is a wizard, the woman castes a spell on my husband which made my husband change his feelings towards me and the kids and broke our 6 years marriage. i was confused and stressed because of the pains of being a single mother, when i called a friend and explained my marital challenges to her, she instructed and directed me to contact a great powerful spell caster called Dr. Ugo Wonders living in Florida. i contacted Dr. Ugo and explained my problems, he assured me his help and it was 100% guaranteed. i provided the materials for the spell and in 48 hours, after Dr Ugo Wonders of generalspelltemple@gmail.com finished casting the spell, my husband was free from the evil woman spell and he came back home to us a day after begging us to forgive him. i was so shocked and short of words and here i am today happily testifying so the world can know how this great man helped me with his real powerful spell.
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