"Giving Up Them Goodies Too Soon"

We have all had that past relationship that went too far when it should have probably never began. We have past loves that we gave up the goodies to, and now looking back at it, we laugh at our mistake. It is good to laugh. However, now that we are older we know better. So when will we start to do better? We still find ourselves giving the goodies to the wrong one too soon.

The biggest issue when we have sex too early with our partners is that we have a tendency of falling in love, not with the person, but with the sex and we THINK we are in love with our partner. Truth is we love the intimacy that they can provide. We get this mixed up so much. Women, we are good for this. We tend to get wrapped up in the sex and we mistake it for falling in love. Falling in love with the sex before the person is not good for the progression of the relationship because the attraction is based off intimacy not two souls joining, but more so two bodies enjoying what they can do for one another. That is not love it is lust.

We all love sex and we think about it constantly when we are in a relationship. We think- when is it going to happen? Will it be good? How long should I wait until we have sex? It may sound cliche but before you are willingly have sex with your partner you should learn about them first. Get to know the exterior before the interior! Why are we always in such a rush to have sex?

Having sex too early in the relationship can cause chaos! Men tend to get overprotective and women tend to get attached. Being over protective too early causes stress within the relationship and makes your partner think that you have insecurity issues. When we get attached too early the conclusions is usually a broken heart because the tighter your grip on your partner the more they will fuss to get loose whether by being in the arms of another or simply ending it and cutting off all ties. When we open the window of intimacy too early we skip a major part of the relationship- getting to know our partner. After two individuals have already had sex what are the odds that on a Friday night they can sit on the couch and talk about each others interests without heading to the bedroom doing what they are now used to doing?

Sex cannot be the only positive aspect of a relationship because just as anything else, it gets old! And there has to be other aspects of the relationship that makes both parties remain happy even when the sex becomes routine. Why so many of us believe that sex alone will hold our partner down is far beyond me because it is not enough. Love comes from higher aspects than the physical pleasures we get out of sex.

Do not give your partner a reason to believe that you are an easy catch. Both parties become confused on where the relationship stands after they have had sex. One may feel that the relationship is stronger and the other may start to feel as if “This is just sex. Why else would I have gotten it so easy and quick?” Making them wait gives you more time to get to know them and gives them more time to respect and adore you. This goes for men and women- Be willing to work for it than getting it easy because nothing worth having comes quick and just as easy as it comes is as easy as it goes.

Lets face it, we are all grown and waiting for sex can be hard on some individuals but for a second just think about the sexual partners that you have had and the way you felt about them before and after the sex. Now reflect on today and I can guarantee that most of you regret over half those sexual partners! So why not cut those regrets to a minimum and wait and see if sex is even worth it.

To make a long story short SAVE THEM GOODIES! Because the more you give out the less goodies you will have to give to the one who is deserving.

The written words of AJT