Yay it’s the first blog of 2012!! Happy New Year to you all and welcome back! =)
After asking many of you what your plans are for the New Year when it comes to love; those in relationships named great ways to keep their current relationship steady, flowing and beautiful. Those who brought in 2012 single named great ways to focus on themselves and in doing so essentially welcome new love.
Well tonight I want to focus on NEW love because I know the dating scene can get boring, depressing and sometimes you feel like you should just give up. When we go into dating with that negative attitude the worse thing can happen; we can find ourselves picking at the past. The one thing you do not want to do this year is END UP BETWEEN THE SAME SHEETS YOU WERE IN LAST YEAR!!
Find new love, new sex new hobbies besides feeding the craving with an old flame. Seriously, many of you look at me like “not me” but believe me when you are tired of dating and aggravated by the results you tend to get a little desperate and start texting people from the past and sending subliminal messages on your Facebook statuses. Yes I have seen it already and we are only 4 days into the New Year!
Dating can be brutal but also successful. The thing is you can’t give up and throw in the towel and you cannot be too aggressive. Let things flow naturally and never rush. Most of all you have to stay optimistic. Nothing great is accomplished over night and love takes time more importantly the success of love takes time.
If you find yourself tired of casual dating and more prepared to settle down then you MUST make sure you look for it in all the right places. Personally, I never trusted meeting people in the club. Alcohol and a good conversation just do not mix because there is too much emotion and sexual energy rather than the want to get to know one another on a more comfortable, clear headed level. The easiest way to find someone for you and someone whose interests are favorably connected to yours is to meet someone at a spot that you go to often during the day. Whether it is the gym, the mall, a lounge or restaurant; meeting someone in the daytime gives you a chance to see them clearly, hear them speak without any impairment and hold a pleasant conversation. If the conversation goes well then you can agree to meet up and do a nighttime dinner. It is always better to meet someone in the light because the darkness brings limitations.
So it’s time to step out and meet new people. Do not allow yourself to become tempted by the past. 2011 is gone and we are welcoming new possibilities, new opportunities and new love. Out with the old and in with the new. Stay optimistic and open to dating. We all have a soul mate out there and when we give up we miss them on our path.
The written words of AJT
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