"Don't Plan On Giving Up The Goods? Then Quit Your Teasing!"

Playing “hard to get” has been proven to turn most men on – This is true. Unless a man is in search of an easy fix towards his sexual desires, playing hard to get is a sure way of making him want a woman more as the chase creates intense attraction opposed to when a woman opens her legs on the first encounter. Agreed?

Essentially there is nothing wrong with a little chase ladies. What causes my uneasiness is when women make a man chase what they have no intentions of giving up. Playing hard to get and intentionally TEASING a man are two different things. If you don’t plan on giving up the goods, don’t send signals as though you are ready to be sexually open with him.

What kind of signals am I referring to? Well in this fast growing technological world of ours it includes texting, social network messages, photos and video chats. Do not text a man telling him what you cannot wait to do to him when you really have no intentions of having a sexual relationship with him any time soon or in the near future. Please do not seem surprised by my words because as women we have all done it; we have acted as though we were up for more than we could handle. Be real about your sexuality and your expectations of the relationship. As women we partake in this popular action because we presume we are holding the man on a tighter leash by teasing him of what he can be getting. However when he finds out you are composed of talk held by no action he will be second-guessing a reason to trust you. Be real with him. If he is truly into forming a relationship with you it will be no issue for him to keep it in his pants for a little while longer.

Your appearance does signify your intentions. Let me repeat this YOUR APPEARANCE DOES SIGNIFY YOUR INTENTIONS. A scenario to support this fact: It is the first date and you decide to wear a tight fitted, close to the buttocks, cleavage showing dress. You cannot possibly believe a man will not assume you are asking for more than dinner and drinks? That dress is screaming, “TAKE ME OFF.” If you plan on being sexually conserved then your appearance should be sexually conserved.

And what leaves me perplexed is that many of you look puzzled when a man “tries” after you have worn such a get up on an evening out. Do not be surprised! What you look like, your demeanor and the actions you put off do reflect the way a man will treat you.  So if you are looking for a casual conversation opposed to what’s hanging in his pants then show him that and not your backside. It is possible to look beautiful, classy and sexy all at the same time without passing false messages that you want sexual desires met.

Ladies, we are perfectly aware of what we are doing - we know what we are asking for when we reach in the back of our closet for our freakum dress. It’s time we quit teasing our men because it does not turn them on but makes us look like a jar full of games. If you want sex TELL HIM. If you don’t want sex then don’t pretend or put on a show like you do. Men love a REAL woman so be one.

The Written Words of AJT