Cheating,
lying, abuse, neglect; your partner’s actions can hurt so much that you no
longer look at them the same, you find difficulty in keeping the faith in your
love and the pain can almost diminish your self assurance. When our
relationships take a tough blow our emotions have us all over the place. Anger,
sadness and irritation takes over and common sense usually goes out the door.
It is then that we make senseless decisions to get back at our partners. One
thing you should never do is seek revenge in our partners mistakes. Pay back has
a tendency to backfire.
The best
approach to recovering your relationship after your partner has made a mistake
is one on one communication before allowing your emotions to control your
actions. Do not act off of anger when your partner’s indiscretions have reached
the surface. When you entertain your resentment you will want more than
anything to make your partner feel the exact same pain you are feeling. You
will want to hurt them equally or more than they have hurt you.
Do you
actually think that hurting them is going to make you feel better? Okay, you
may get a little satisfaction at first but in the long run you will hurt far
more than your partner. I’ve known a
woman who slept with a man only because her boyfriend cheated on her. She ended
up hurting more in the end because her boyfriend did not care about her enough
to show even a hint of emotion and now she had a man who she slept with for all
the wrong reasons stalking her and not letting up his advances. Her actions were a cry for attention and the
man who she wanted the attention from didn’t care enough to give it to her.
Never put yourself in a situation to look stupid. Many times we try to play our
partners and end up playing ourselves instead.
The best pay
back you can give to someone who has hurt you is to walk away untouched. Show
absolutely no emotion. This will affect them far more than you screaming to
them that you slept with their best friend. Do not put yourself in the position
to be called anything less than what you are.
If we learn
to react sensibly we can save ourselves a lot of self-humiliation. Whoring
around trying to get the attention of someone who has hurt you lessens your
worth and shows your immaturity. Any act to gain attention that takes away from
who you are is not going to grab the attention of someone who wronged you, if
anything it will humor them. You are entertaining them by proving they have
taken you out of your element. No one is worth all of that trouble. Payback has
a way of biting you in the rear. Don’t play the fool.
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