"Putting Yourself Down Infront of Your Man? Very Unattractive Ladies!"

Ladies, are we searching for a compliment when we tell our men “babe I am so fat…I think I should lose some weight…my stomach looks so gross after the baby... I don’t feel like I look good in this”? Either we are searching for a compliment or we are putting ourselves down in front of a man who OBVIOUSLY finds us attractive. My women, you are your own worse enemy. Quit dragging your man into your self-conscious fits!

It is not attractive to him when you constantly put yourself down. A man finds confidence in a woman to be one of her sexiest assets. Women who may not be the prettiest in the bunch but have great self esteem always score bigger than a pretty face with a lack of confidence. Confidence is a sign of personal strength and affirmation. Another reason why men love it? Because it makes their job much easier! A man does not want to constantly remind his woman of how beautiful she is. Of course he will compliment her regularly but when a man has a woman who already sees the beauty within herself, he does not have to build her confidence or esteem. Men do not like endlessly having to put you in front of a mirror to remind you how amazing you are. They want you to already know!

Men are aware that a woman with confidence will rarely nag him and falsely accuse him of unfaithfulness. Within confidence lies independence and trust. When a woman is confident she does not have to place jealousy and envy in her head towards other women. It is jealousy and low self esteem that fuels women to accuse faithful men of being dishonest. A woman’s jealousy and lack of confidence will form worries and negative thoughts within her mind, which will eventually lead to her over analyzing everything her man does. She will continually flip his actions into him being untrue to her. MEN HATE THIS! The last thing a faithful man wants to do is spend his days proving to you how genuine he is actually being. After a while it gets old and your lack of confidence will have a good man running straight for the door.

Ladies, you have to stop comparing yourself to every woman you see. You have to quit thinking your man wants every pretty face. You have to stop thinking that you are not good enough. You have to stop letting your low self-esteem push a good man away from you. If he did not think you were beautiful, good enough, amazing, one of a kind then he would not be here with you right now proving himself true. You must see in yourself what he sees in you. Do not make it hard for him to love you. Do not make it hard for him to stay. Know your beauty just as he knows your beauty. Come on ladies…GET YOUR MIND RIGHT!

The Written Words of AJT