"We Had Sex…Now I Think I love Them! Am I Trippin?"

A common misconception with sex is thinking we have fallen in love from it.  The sex can be so good that it has us daydreaming about walking down the aisle, moving in together, and baby names when we have only been dating our partners for a short period of time! This is familiarly the case with individuals who take giving away their goodies seriously. People who see sex as less of an attachment do not find themselves falling in love over it. Still, when we have sex with our partners, before deep feelings and connections have become visible, there is always someone in the relationship who will grow a bit attached to this new physical partnership. This attachment I speak of has the power to confuse post sexual feelings with falling in love and disregards to see it for what it really is– LUST. SO to answer your question…YES, YOU TRIPPIN!

Good sex has power. Toe curling, body trembling PHYSICAL power but also butterflies in the belly, saying things we really don’t mean, emotional confusion, MENTAL power. The physical power holds less confusion because it is something we cannot help. If the sex is good our bodies will react to it BUT when it comes to sex’s mental power we LOSE all control! We confuse the fact that we are having good sex with our partner to thinking we have fallen in love with our partner. We rush the most important aspect of the relationship – the journey of falling in love. Which is why you hear many relationship councilors stress the importance of waiting to have sex because with sex comes perplexed feelings, overprotective egos and a rushed relationship.

The only time we can downgrade the magnitude of the emotions that comes with sex is when we are not having sex with our partners yet. However, once a sexual relationship begins EVERYTHING changes. What puzzles me is that we often link women to this overly attached, post sexual emotion when the truth of the matter is it affects both sexes. Not all men have sex casually. Not all men are able to sleep with a woman they care nothing for. So yes, men can to be hypnotized by sexual encounters. The sex makes him feel as if he has now taken ownership of all she possesses physically. In his eyes, she is his and the very thought of her giving the goods to another man makes him furious. This is the mental and emotional bondage that comes with sex and one that causes us to confuse sex with love. Being sexually WHIPPED does not mean you have found your soul mate.

So to all of you who are putting rings on it because between the sheets you have reached your highest level of ecstasy…THINK AGAIN. I am not saying that having sex with your partner is the wrong thing to do. What I am saying is that sex rushes emotions and can play terrible tricks on the mind disregarding the truth within the heart. So just let the sex be good! You do not have to go out planning the wedding, kids and retirement! Chill out, fall in love and naturally let the emotions mature.

The Written Words of AJT