"Yes, Your Partner is Amazing but Do Not Forget They Are Still HUMAN"

When embarking on a new relationship we place our partners on an elevated pedestal especially when we talk to others about the one we love. We boast that they can never and will never do any wrong. While doing this we allow our minds to be constantly tricked. Our words become thoughts and we immediately envision our partner on a throne unable to make the simplest mistakes and believe it or not most relationships FAIL because of this small yet colossal misconception.

When we place our loves too elevated on the totem pole we rid our minds of their flaws and shortcomings. It is essential to remember that your loved one is human and that they will make mistakes whether big or small. You will never find a perfect man or woman when it comes to love because our minds and expectations or so diverse that we are destined to do wrong in the eyes of our lovers. But this is okay; this is how we learn of the expectancies, needs and wants of our partner.

If you continue to falsely convince yourself that your partner does no wrong, then when they do make a mistake (and believe me they WILL make a mistake) you will be so surprised and taken away by their actions that you will emotionally and mentally break down. It will be such a shock to the mind and heart that you will more than likely feel the relationship cannot go on.

The surprise we get is heartbreaking when someone we thought so highly of breaks our personal judgment. It becomes difficult to look at them in the monumental light we did before.  We become constantly stressed about their whereabouts, doings and ultimately question the success of the relationship. We were so fixated on their perfections that we overlooked the FACT that they carry flaws just like any other individual.

Yes your man is amazing but he is still a MAN. Do not be surprised when he just wants to sit in front the T.V, hang out with the guys, chill without being bothered or doesn’t want to constantly be under you. These are not stereotypes but these are the commonly known characteristics of a MAN. No, your man is not like any other man. He is unique otherwise you would not love him as much as you do; however, understand that he is not flawless and if you plan on building a secure, loving relationship with him you have to accept his flaws just like you accepted the perfections.

Embrace the shortcomings of your love because we all have them including YOU. You will never be with someone who does everything to your liking. Love is about perfectly loving your lover’s imperfections.

As you constantly convince yourself that your man/woman is above all you are deceiving your mind and leading it down instability emotionally and mentally. It is amazing to have high hopes and admiration towards your partner and it is very much needed. You are suppose to have this kind of confidence with the being you’re choosing to share your love with but you have to make sure you have REALISTIC comprehensions.

Do not trick yourself into an unfortunate relationship. At the same time keep your high thoughts of your partner ALWAYS but when she forgets to clean her hair out the sink, when he forgets his ring, when she overcooks your meal, when he misses your call because the T.V was too loud REMEMBER they are HUMAN. And it should not make you love them any less. Accept it, forgive them (because that is what a REAL love does), love them and be REALISTIC about your perfectly flawed, unique lover.

The Written Words of AJT