Having His Baby Won't Make Him Stay

Pregnancy is a gift. It has the ability to turn boys into men and girls into women. It molds parental strength and gives new parents the opportunity to spark a mind while providing unconditional love that is incomparable to any other.

Unfortunately, many women are abusing pregnancy and using it as an “investment”. They ignore their lack of maturity and understanding needed to become a mother and instead ponder the thought of being tied to a man for the rest of their lives. To them, if it will make the man stay then it is worth the “maternal investment”. They honestly believe a child will keep a man glued to them and only them for the rest of their lives. Truth is it won’t. Tricking a man into an unplanned pregnancy does not buy his love. Having his baby will not make him stay!

We are living in an age where so many women, young and old, are mothers to an average of 3 kids but have never been a wife to even 1 man. If a man doesn’t want to be tied down then there is nothing a woman can do about it. Opening your legs, lying about being on birth control and conceiving a man’s child who wants nothing more than sex and a bit of comfort from you is not smart – it is dumb, immature and will leave you and the child in pain.

Men are not difficult beings to figure out. They are the most straightforward humans on the planet because, unlike women, through their actions we are able to understand their feelings. Men can fake feelings but they are incapable of faking ACTIONS. You know if a man really loves you because other women would be non-existent, their attention will be focused upon you, their dreams and ambitions will begin to evolve around you and they will share their world with you. You know when a man does not love you or appreciate you because he is the total opposite of everything mentioned above.

Women can be in such denial and we make up excuses for a man’s neglect. Well Sweetheart he’s just not into you! No need to make justifications for the matter – a man’s actions will always give him away. So do not try to fight against his feelings by tricking him into a birth he does not want and into being with you when he does not want that either. Sadly, there are many women who know firsthand that it is not difficult for a man to leave you high and dry with a child. But the ONLY men who do this are the men who do not love you nor want you. And by their actions of abandonment they do not care about you or their child’s well being. So before thinking that tricking him into bed and getting pregnant is going to keep him you need to figure out if he is worth keeping and most importantly if you are ready for the duty and title of being a mother.

A child is not a quick fix solution to making a man find you more desirable. A child is not the key to making a man fall in love with you. If he does stay after you become pregnant it is not because of you it is because of his child. The relationship you think you will receive from him will not endure because he does not love you – he loves what he has made with you.

Point is – if you have to go through desperate measures to keep a man then he obviously does not want to be kept. Trapping him with a child has consequences that have the ability to emotionally damage you beyond repair. The probability of you becoming a single mother is far more robust than you becoming that man’s wife.

Women are smart creatures however sometimes we forget to think. We make permanent solutions to keep men in our lives who were only meant to be temporary.

The Written words of AJT