Now That I Found Love, My Single Friend Sees No Good In It. Are They Jealous?

You want to know the true test of friendship? It often occurs when happiness is a part of your life and not of your friend's. To your friend, your happiness should be all that matters and once you have found it, they should enjoy it with you, not compromise it.

When you and your friend were single, you had each other. You both went out to have a good time and the level of happiness was pretty much the same. Neither of you had a significant other to go home to. However once you found love, you may have found your friendship with your single friend to change.

Your friendship should not change, however your friend’s actions towards what is “fun” should. Now that you are committed to someone the fun that you and your single friend use to have may have to be altered a bit. Going out to the club every weekend picking up new “possibilities” may not be in the best interest of your relationship. Therefore, your friend should understand this and not pressure you to do anything that would conflict or compromise the new love that you have found. When your single friend begins to be a liability or threat to your relationship you really need to reconsider if they have your best interest at heart. If they did, they would see that you were happy and would not pressure you to do anything that would jeopardize that happiness.

I have come across many single individuals who try to ‘hype’ the single life into a world full of untamed, fun, possibilities. They try to make it seem as if being in a committed relationship is a curse and that promiscuity always wins over monogamy. They try with all their might to get their committed friends back to their “single” selves simply because they are tired of being lonely. Now that you are in a committed relationship you may have less time for your friend. This can cause them to feel alone and left out. They may feel as if they have lost a relationship and without thinking of the consequences of their actions, they do anything to try to get you, their newly committed friend, to be single again.

If it is one thing I have learned about some individuals in this world it is that it is easy for them to befriend someone of the same statute as them. They never feel belittled in the presence of someone who has little or the same as them. This all changes when their friend earns or finds something that they too want. Love for instance. So if you find that a few friendships fail to respect your relationship, try to place negativity in your mind about being committed, often urges you to do things that are not best for you now that you are in a relationship then you have probably come in contact with someone who cannot handle seeing you with success that does not belong to them. Realize it and dispose of the friendship. If you are happy your friend should be happy.

The Written Words of AJT