10 Things He Wishes You Knew!

Ladies, there are a few things you must know about the male counterpart. Most of which I am about to state is universal because for some reason as women we tend to have the same worries, anxious thoughts and insecure mindsets. So listen up and take notes!

1. He hates it when you compare yourself to, bring up, or constantly hint on his past.

-Who he has been with, what he did and who he was back then is irrelevant to who he is trying to be right now. We all have a past and we all hate being reminded of it. So what if he had beautiful exes - kill your insecurities. Your man is not thinking about his exes, you shouldn't be either. Who cares how many women he has slept with back then. What does his past mistakes and affairs have to do with you? Did you even know him back then? Your insecurities are your enemy. Remember, 9 times out of 10 the man you are with right now is nothing like the man who existed back then. His past relationships, affairs and lifestyles should not be hung over his head. He loves you. He is with you. He is a different man now. Get over his past!

2. Quit smothering him.

-You do not need to know where he is 24-7. When you constantly call, text, email and bother him during the day he will think you don’t trust him or that you are being too dependent upon him. Men need more space than women. Get used to this fact. For some reason we take offense to their need of space. It doesn’t mean he does not love you, or that he is with someone else. It simply means he wants some time to himself. That’s it.

3. He will not notice when you have make up on but he will notice when you have too much on!

- Women, we are our own worse enemy. We worry about our imperfections when our men don’t even pay attention to it. You do not have to be dolled up in the house, nor do you have to cake on your makeup. Realize, that you will not always have your looks that you have right now. Prettiness Fades. If he loves you, he understands that as well. So show him who you really are once in a while. Skip the makeup one day. I BET HE STILL CALLS YOU BEAUTIFUL.

4. Flaunt your confidence not your achievements.

- He loves that you are intelligent, that you work, that you are a great mother that you are accomplished BUT he does not need to hear about it all the time. Be confident yet modest. Men love confidence but being overly confident can get redundant and can come off to him as a turn off. He already knows your accomplishments and all that you do for him. Bragging and reminding him takes away from the deed.

5. He will not ALWAYS want to have sex. It does not mean you are unattractive.

-Men get tired just like we do and we tend to get upset when our man is too tired or worn out to have sex. We jump to conclusions that he got it elsewhere or he is no longer attracted to us. Again QUIT OVER EXAGGERATING. The truth is…He is just TIRED.

6. He does not want to have a serious conversation with you everyday. This does not mean he doesn’t care about your feelings or the relationship.

-Men are simple (not in an incompetent way) but when it comes to relationships simplicity is their greatest trait. If something is bothering you, tell him, talk about it, and move on. DO NOT bring it up again the next day. Men hate long drawn out conversations. When you bring something up after it has already been laid to rest it becomes nagging and that is the number 1 irritation to men. Let things go and move on. Everything does not have to be so serious.

7. Notice his efforts.

- Even if it is the smallest thing like taking out the trash, let him know he is appreciated and that you love having him around. We tend to want compliments and appreciative gestures from our men without thinking they too want to know they are valued.

8. When he gives you a compliment leave it at that!

- If your man tells you he loves your body why would you reply “yeah but I can lose a little more weight”. Why are you putting yourself down while he is trying to lift you up? He loves what he sees! If you don’t, then work on it but NEVER make yourself out to be less than confident when he is complimenting you. It turns men off to see a beautiful woman unaware of how beautiful she really is.

9. You do not have to do EVERYTHING for him.

- Catering to a good man is a great feeling but if he says he’s got it, LET HIM DO IT. Do not fight him if he is offering to wash the dishes. He loves you. He will not want you to do EVERYTHING, he wants to cater to you as well.

10. Keep your business between you two.

-Men hate being talked about to your girlfriends and your family. He loves secrecy within his relationship. Stop running to mommy and your best friends when he messes up or even when he does something nice for you. You wonder why the majority of men’s parents know nothing about their relationship affairs? It is because they keep it to themselves. As women, we need to learn how to do the same.

I know this was a bit long but every word needed to be stated. Ladies, we have a lot of habits to break. So lets start now. We have been keeping our men in the doghouse for centuries to come totally neglecting the fact that we too have imperfections. It has all been drawn out for you. Are you willing to change?

The Written Words of AJT