"Those Negative Thoughts vs Our Intuition"

Intuition can make or break a relationship. Our feelings and thoughts that intuition can produce can lead us to taking risky assumptions of the person we are with or the relationship as a whole. But as we are all familiar with the proverb “Follow your intuition” can our intuitions sometimes be misleading? When a negative feeling strikes towards our relationship should we immediately act upon it because it is “our intuition trying to tell us something”? Sometimes those intuitions can evolve because negativity clouds our thoughts. When this happens it is quite possible that we shield those thoughts and subconsciously believes them to be “females/males intuition.”

The problem with intuition is that it is often hard to distinguish being “too suspicious for absolutely nothing”, and “my intuition never lies”. For example, you believe your significant other is cheating because you are getting these feelings and thoughts in your head and you believe that they are not there for nothing. However, sometimes they are. Your love may not be giving you any reasons to feel the way you do. They are constantly showing you love, appreciation and all the qualities of a trusting person however you continue to feed into those intuitions and accuse them of doing things that they have never had intentions of doing.

When negative thoughts arise they have the ability to cloud the judgments we have of our significant others and cause tension in the relationship. You are trying to figure out why you cannot trust them and they are trying to figure out what they are doing wrong to make you feel you cannot trust them. It begins a chain reaction of your loved one feeling as though they are not good enough when they are the best you ever had. Never make a good man/woman feel down about how they are loving you when they are giving you all the love they are capable of giving. Do not allow your negative thoughts to cause you to lose one of the best things that has ever happened to you.

So I know you are wondering when is the intuition real and not evolving from negative thinking? Easy answer- when your significant other is giving you reasons to believe that something is going on. It seems cliché but it is the truth. How can you excuse someone of dishonesty when they are not portraying any actions leading to that dishonesty? Once your loves’ routines, actions towards you, emotional distance and carelessness becomes evident then you can wonder if you should have something to worry about. However, if the love has not changed, and they are continually being true to their word and the relationship, do not allow your thoughts to poison a solid union.

It is important to control our thoughts. Figure out why these thoughts are coming about. Maybe you have never been in such a great relationship or had such an amazing love and the “it is too good to be true” thought begins to give way to your negative thinking. That comes into knowing what you deserve. You should know that you deserve a true love and that true love does exist. Get over thoughts that love never plays out to be a wonderful thing because believe me it does. You do not want to be the one in the relationship causing the dysfunctions and arguments. That does not make the relationship strong but it will pull you both apart and cause discomfort to the one you love.

Stop relying on intuition to justify your negativity. When we grow in our relationships we grow in ourselves as well. We learn what thoughts to have and which ones to let go of. Enjoying our love, living off positive feelings and taking advantage of a love we deserve is dependent on ourselves. Its up to you if you want to let love take you to places you have never been emotionally and mentally. However, it is also up to you if you want to allow negativity to take away the possibility of feeling and knowing a real love. Our thoughts can be so misleading and that is when we have to step out and act upon knowledge and familiarization of whom it is we are loving. If we give more attention to the negative mindset it will become powerful and it will rule your actions. Do not give these thoughts room to play a part in your relationship or your life.

The Written Words Of AJT