Ladies, why do you find comfort in the love you give to your Mr. Wrong? When Mary J. Blige’s song hit the scene I remember a flow of Facebook statuses quoting her song lyrics. Am I blowing this out of proportion or is it taken too lightly how easily women fall into the realm of giving their unconditional love to Mr. Wrongs instead of Mr. Rights?
If you have given him the title “Mr. Wrong” then that proves to me that you know you are settling for less, you know you are being mistreated but you are held down by this evident circumstance. There is no reason why you should relish in your pain. Why do you not want more for yourself? For your heart? Why not have a sense of respect for your one of a kind love that you can be giving to a man willing to return that and so much more?
Do not allow a song to nail your feet to the ground in a relationship that has no chance of progression. And please refrain from telling me that even though your Mr. Wrong treats you so bad you find happiness and satisfaction in the “relationship” (notice how I quote relationship) Newsflash: you are not happy at all instead you have become content in your means of settling. Your emotions are used to the pain so the overall reaction of it no longer exists. Your expectations are low for your Mr. Wrong so every time he screws up you are less surprised for you expect nothing more of him. This is not the ingredient or factor of happiness it only shows that you have been putting up with bad for so long that your mind and emotions have become accustomed to the maltreatment. You trick yourself into believing that it is happiness when really it is self-infliction. Infliction that you have limited yourself to. You are where you are in your love life, attracting who you are attracting because of what you allow yourself to put up with.
Admitting that your man is Mr. Wrong and still being in the relationship does not show loyalty to your man or yourself instead it shows how cowardly you really are. It shows how little security you have within yourself. It is a pure reflection of your self-esteem (or lack of) and of what you believe you deserve or should I say: What you believe you DO NOT deserve. Break free from this crippling mentality because if you don’t you will have a long record of Mr. Wrongs and a non-existent record of Mr. Rights.
Do you know what happens when you spend all of your time and your love on the wrong man? Not only do you impede yourself from ever being with the right man but you also turn the right man the other way. When a man sees a woman putting up with less of what she deserves many will not try and rescue her from it. Men are becoming tired of the stereotypical mad, bitter, sad, un-confident woman. They do not want to build a woman; they want a woman who has already created herself. This foundation is to include her confidence, self-respect, ambition and worth. Men do not want to take on a project when searching for the right woman. Most rather find the right woman when they know they have become the right man.
In order to find your self-foundation, reach personal heights and gain your self-respect back you need to let go of the liabilities. And the number one liability that is holding you back is your Mr. Wrong. You have already admitted how insignificant and unworthy he is of your love by the title you have bestowed upon him, however a profounder change is needed. You must burn the ties you have to this man and give yourself a chance at more.
Please delete Mary J Blige’s song “Mr. Wrong” from your playlist. As a matter of fact erase it from your iTunes library and gain a sense of consciousness to what the song is doing to your love life. Yes music has the tendency to lead us down unsuccessful paths. Break free from the illusion of words in music and pay attention to reality. Reality is that no woman should take pride in Mr. Wrong. We should be perfecting ourselves in hopes of attracting Mr. Right.
The Written Words Of AJT
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