The BEAUTY of lovemaking. Yes it is a magnificent activity BUT some of you try extremely too hard and take the pleasure away from this, supposed to be, marvelous endeavor. What do I mean by trying too hard? I am sure many of you have found yourselves with an individual who really wanted it to be good with you – referring to the sex. So they did a lot of extra yet unnecessary things to make sure the experience was great. Truth of the matter is sometimes less is more. And yes, there is such a thing as being too freaky and instead of turning your partner on it begins to turn your partner off.
There are so many different sexual ventures when it comes to foreplay but the fact that many of you fail to embrace is that not all foreplay activities is for you! Maybe you are not flexible, maybe dancing isn’t your cup of tea and maybe oral sex grosses you out. Okay all of these claims are legitimate but when you still try to do it and your partner can tell that the action is overly forced you ruin the intimacy. The point is that in sex, just like all other situations in life, you have to be true to you! If you know you cannot dance ladies then please do not try and put on a show for your partner because half the time they KNOW you CANNOT dance before you even press play on the music. I am going to step away from making this blog about the ladies because it is not about one sex it is about BOTH.
Sexual activities before actual intercourse (foreplay) should be natural, fun and fulfilling and it should not be something you have to try so hard at that by the time you are ready to embrace intercourse your partner is screaming to be rescued from this nightmare. How awkward. Do not embarrass yourself during an intimate moment because you are trying to be someone you are not. It is sexy to be yourself. Your partner loved you before you tried to give them a circus show in bed- they loved you when you were just YOU. So stay true to that. It is more than great to want to give your partner more than the usual sexual experience because it strays away from keeping things boring but just make sure that any act you give into is a reflection of who you are and the attractions of your partner. Do not take part in something way out of your comfort zone that has your partner scratching their head wondering why you thought it was a good idea in the first place. Trying too hard will leave you looking a bit foolish and your partner afraid to embark in another sexual experience with you.
When it comes to sex we all have our skills, our likes and dislikes, our wants and desires and it is so important that we take that into consideration when we are having sex with our partners. It has to feel good for everyone involved. Sex is not one sided, it is an act to please both parties. Sometimes it is better to leave the extra, never been tried, not your cup of tea endeavors to the side because if you feel stupid doing it I am sure your partner feels stupid watching and taking part in it. Hey, I am just being real. LESS IS MORE. If your partner is freaky stay in the realms of their freakiness – do not assume that because they are freaky they like UNBELIEVABLY FREAKY things. There is a limit to freakiness that sometimes, depending on the partners involved, should not be experimented with.
So lets not turn our partners off or make them think we have lost our mind. Embarrassment in the bedroom, to my belief, is the worse kind of embarrassment because it makes the time after a bit awkward. Talk before you act. Do not try to surprise your honey with something too out of the ordinary. Just make sure it is to their liking because lets face it we would hate to have our partners scared, hesitant or unenthusiastic about having sex with us.
The written words of AJT
2 comments:
I agree, and would like to add that communication doesn't stop at the bedroom door. Ask your partner what turns them off/on in the bedroom and get feedback when something your doing is really making them feel good, then make sure you continue to do that. If your partner likes some freaky thing that's outside of your comfort zone, at least be willing to try it, if you still are not down for it at least your partner should respect your effort.
Couldn't Agree more with you Racquel!
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