Confidence is an attractive characteristic as well as a crucial trait for love’s success. BUT there is such a thing of having too much confidence and as the saying goes, “too much of anything isn’t always good for you”.
With confidence come standards. Those with a good level of confidence know their worth and know what not to settle for. But then you have those individuals whose confidence is so robust that they believe finding someone to fulfill their ideal standard is a one in a million chance. They do not believe this from a lack of confidence instead it comes from their overly vigorous amount of confidence. Individuals like these find themselves to be so irresistible and they find it easier to settle for a plethora of “friends with benefits” rather than settling down because they cannot find someone worthy enough to settle down with. I call this over confidence the trait of an EGOMATIC!! If you find that I just described you perfectly please do not be offended by this blog but I’m about to wake you up and bring your almighty, god’s gift to earth ego a little below the clouds its been flying so highly upon.
I believe that no one in this world is good enough to say, “I am too good to date you.” And when we come up with these impracticable standards we increase the chances of never having the opportunity at real love. There are some standards that are not only unrealistic but they are ignorant. When I meet people I always ask them questions, when appropriate, about their feelings towards love and relationships because it is a helpful insight for my blog. Recently I came across someone who felt finding a woman within his standards was almost impossible. He had the skin complexion, income, family affairs, abilities and height and weight of the woman he would be with down to a size and he would not lower any of these standards. He felt that he was supposed to think this highly of himself and he deserved more than just good enough. Okay that I can understand and to some extent I can appreciate his confidence. However sometimes we get so hooked on the physical and financial standards of a mate that we overlook the important traits. Call me cliché but she can be the most beautiful, richest, successful woman in the world but if she has a superficial attitude and a mouth of a sailor how do you expect to take her home to mom?
An “egomatic” individual will think they are too good for nearly every individual in this world, however they fail to realize that the over confidence they believe makes them attractive can actually turn many individuals off. Who wants to be with someone who compliments themselves more than their partner? Who wants to be with someone who is so superficial they cannot put another’s feelings, thoughts and emotions before their own? How is someone of that stature able to love another?
So for my overly confident folks please realize that your confidence is appreciated however don’t let it deter your chances of having a successful relationship. Come to grips with the idea that it is not all about you. Thinking of yourself as superior to those around you can lead others to find it hard to love you. A bit of humility wouldn’t hurt.
The written words of AJT
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