As we approach the New Year, I am sure you have pondered on your New Year’s Resolutions. Whether it involves dropping a few pounds, dropping bad habits or dropping the relationship that turned 2011 upside down, we all hope for one thing when the ball drops – CHANGE.
The issue with New Year’s Resolutions? We seem to follow them for about 2 weeks into January and after those 2 weeks are up we are right back to feeding last year’s habits.
**There is no greater feeling than going into the New Year with your affairs of the heart in order. Stepping into 2012 with a dead weight relationship, a broken heart, or constant struggle to keep your relationship stable is no way to begin a year that you have never witnessed before. **
Having a New Year’s Resolution, to many, is a method of self-innovation. It opens up the door to transformation and a time to better themselves and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that as long as the commitment to the obligation is made.
Some of you have been hurt. You never dreamed of ending 2011 heartbroken, alone and in the presence of heartache. Well you have wallowed in that shade long enough. It’s time to step out, let go and look forward to the possibilities of the New Year. It is a new beginning. I understand you have been hurt but the only way to let go of that pain is to change your perspective. Every situation can be worse. So instead of sulking about what happened and what was I need you to pick up your heart, dust it off and prepare it for a new start.
Some of you went into 2011 single and now you feel like a failure for going into 2012 the same way. Embrace your freedom! Again, it is all about perspective. Every year comes with new lessons and the wisdom that follows. I want you to reflect back on all that has happened to you this year and what has made you better and what you have allowed to make you bitter. Try to turn all of the changes, the let downs and the negatives into positives. Use this to construct a list of characteristics of the person you know you are willing and able to love. Why am I asking you do this? Too often I find that single individuals sometimes get so itchy for a relationship that they settle. DO NOT go into 2012 meeting someone and dating them because they are “good enough”. Go into 2012 with confidence and do not allow your “status” to hinder that poise. Know that you are single and FABULOUS! Carry your confidence with elegance and pride and lower your expectations for no one. When writing that list be realistic but firm on what you can put up with and what you simply cannot. IT IS OKAY TO BE SINGLE =) Do not let the label discourage you- instead let it enhance you and bring that enrichment into the New Year!
For my single parents who feel as if you were fighting baby momma/daddy drama too much in 2011 I desperately need you to become emotionally independent. This means that what your baby daddy/momma won’t do for your child YOU DO IT. Do not waste your time and energy arguing with ignorance or someone who cannot fulfill their responsibilities. Let it go and do what you need to do in order to obtain the best results for your child. Go into 2012 with your child’s best interest your main priority & not the unfulfilled responsibilities of the other parent. I know you have found yourself placing too much energy into trying to get someone to cooperate in your child’s life or to take responsibility for the part they played in the birth but as the saying goes “If you want something done, DO IT YOURSELF.” Become EMOTIONALLY INDEPENDENT allowing no one to gain control of your feelings or your capabilities of being a splendid parent. It’s 2012 I need the real parents to stand up and take a stand! Even if you are doing it alone. I applaud you!
The objective of this special blog is for you to understand that what you went through in 2011 can break you, leave you anti social, love strung, hurt and depressed but with only a few days left until the new year it’s time to dry your tears and let it go. You cannot forget what was, you cannot hide away the past and you cannot pretend as if it never happened. What you can do is learn to live with it, learn to take it for what it is, and realize that when things go wrong, when your heart shuts down and when emotions take over YOU CANNOT STAY THERE FOREVER. Sooner or later you will have to reclaim the person in which you hope to become. I don’t want you to wait until New Years to make this change. Start now. Kick the negativity and hurt into your 2011 Treasure Box and build a new box for 2012. Prepare yourself for innovation and a better you. It happened so there is no need to dwell and rekindle what was- leave it where it is and be ready for what is to come in 2012~
HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO MY FAITHFUL READERS <3
The written words of AJT
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I love you girl. You are so ispirational.
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