Are you one of those individuals who in 20 years will bring home a date that is the same age as your oldest child? In other words, will you be known to rob the cradle?
Do not confuse this blog as me declaring that I am against dating someone younger because that is not true, however I do believe there should be a line in the relationship between loving your younger partner and feeling like you are raising your younger partner. When you date someone younger (and I am not talking about a year or two younger than you- I am preferring to a decade) you take the risk of being confused because there will come a point in the relationship where you will not be able to tell if you are loving your younger partner or parenting them.
There is no problem with dating someone younger because the age does not matter. You can be 30 years old and find a 20 year old just as mature and level headed as you. It is not the age.
What matters is the person and the experiences that they bring into the relationship.
Dating someone younger than you makes it evident that they are a little wet behind the ears compared to you because you have about 10-20 more years on them. This can be good or this can be bad. Good because together you two can learn more about one another and your partner can keep you young. However, a lack of experience can lead to your younger partner handling situations in a more immature way. Now do not get me wrong, many of us at any age can sometimes find ourselves handling situations in an immature manner. However the difference comes in when our actions come from anger vs. your 12-year younger partner whose actions are coming from lack of experience.
Okay so what about the sex? Personally, I do not want to feel like I am sleeping with a 14 year old. Bird chest babies with no signs of puberty (chest hair) is a no go for me LOL. However, everyone is different. Many people believe that sleeping with someone younger will be more exciting than sleeping with someone their own age or older. Maybe. In terms of endurance I am sure a 25 year old woman will be more active and flexible than a 45 year old woman. Every man loves a good “ride”.(wink) And maybe a 25-year-old man will last a bit longer than a 45 year old man. Every woman wants to have sex long enough to reach her climax. BUT with time comes wisdom and intellect on how to really maneuver the human body (for most). Speaking as a woman, who wants a man who has to look under the sheets in order to guide himself in? Someone experienced has a mental map!
A friend of mine recalls having sex with a man who was 9 years younger than her as she states, “ Girl, I am 40 years old and I want passion but all this youngin wanted to do was go fast, too hard and reach his own climax. What is up with young men wanting to pound you and rush like a damn dog!” If that is not funny enough, could it be true? Are younger individuals just about sex and not love making?
I don’t know about other women out there but I prefer a man who is intellectually blessed when it comes to the a woman's anatomy rather than a youngin who has just found the location of the g-spot. EXPERIENCE MATTERS~
No one wants to add extra weight on when it comes to loving someone. Loving someone should not be hard and in most cases when you find yourself dating someone younger the strain is more complex. It is possible to be in a successful relationship with someone younger but more work will be needed to make it work. This does not just include the age barrier in numbers but also mentality and life. However never think that just because someone is younger than you in mentality or age that you cannot learn anything from him or her. Sometimes it takes being around a younger individual to enjoy life more. Younger people are more carefree and sometimes we need that spur of energy in our lives.
So to date younger or not to date younger? Well I cannot answer that question for you. It is an evaluation. You must evaluate where you are in life, where you want to go and whom you want to take along with you. Most importantly, you need to evaluate the person because whether someone you are dating is younger or older is not the biggest issue, the biggest factor comes in dating someone who helps you progress, makes you better and makes you want to be even greater. That is not discriminate upon age. The more you learn with your partner and the more you stop looking at the age barrier the closer it will pull you both together. So robbing the cradle? It’s not too bad – if they are legal LOL – It’s about the love and where it can take you.
The written words of AJT
2 comments:
Thanx so much for this info i read the whole thing and each and every line and i could c my realation in every line I really appreaciate the insight I obtained.
Came searching for this because I find myself faced with this dilemma all of the time. My baby face tends to attract men 10 years younger than me and I recently turned 31. Glad I read it, it all makes sense to me. Thank you :-)
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