Sexual Fetishes- Should You Run From Them or Fulfill Them?

Have you ever been with someone who had the weirdest sexual fetishes?

I remember my girlfriend asking me if she should feel weird that every time her and her man have sex he turns on lesbian porn.

I guess everyone has his or her unique turn-ons but when your partner’s fetish makes you feel uncomfortable should you still give into the act? Small requests like different sexual positions or toe fetishes, butt fetishes and other “heard of” obsessions are not too bad. However when a request begins to turn you off of your partner, well then it becomes an issue.

Now my dilemma here is- I do not believe in keeping sexual desires away from your partner. You should be able to tell them your desires and aspirations of the bedroom even if it is something new or strangely spoken. The communication should always be open. BUT then there are some fetishes that can make a person sound so perverted that you become afraid to share sexual satisfaction with them. Should some fetishes be kept in the closet to avoid scaring our partners away?

I remember writing a blog “What You Won’t Do For Your Partner, Another Will”. Well, could a lack of “fetish fulfillment” be the same as a lack of “emotional fulfillment” causing your partner to stray to another who can compensate for your lack of sexual imagination? If a sexual fetish goes un-nurtured it can very well lead to an unsatisfied partner in bed. So what do you do? What do you do when your partner is asking you to participate in a rather abnormal act?

DO IT!
JUST KIDDING!!!!! (kinda) =)

It all depends on how far you would go for the person you are with. If it is just a boyfriend/girlfriend who you feel connected to but not that comfortable with yet then you should stay away from the sexual fetishes until the comfort level is at a more reasonable level.

On the other hand, if your spouse, fiancé or someone who you are absolutely sure you will be spending the rest of your life with asks you to partake in a special sexual connection well I SAY GIVE IT A TRY =).

Yes Do it!

When you are married or in a serious, committed relationship you will definitely experience new things. Even more directly, you will experience new sexual ventures! If it’s your spouse, you two will eventually do everything imaginable in the bedroom, as it should be! So, if your spouse or longggggg term lover asks you to try something different- Hell, why not? This is the person who you plan on being with for eternity therefore all comfort levels should be at an all time peak already. Even if the new position, the new sexual entrance (wink) or that new object being included in the bedroom does not work out you have nothing to lose.

With a short-term boyfriend/girlfriend where an excessive amount of comfort is lacking, you may find that the relationship didn’t work after you already partook in that “special” sexual act. That scene will play over and over in your head and turn into REGRET. If you are going to do some kinky, freaky, out of the ordinary things in bed with someone, make sure it is with someone who you see yourself being with for the long haul. It would be a shame walking away from a relationship and then saying “Damn I wish I hadn’t let him/her put that in my______. I hope he/she don’t tell nobody!” LOL just keeping it real.

I think sexual fetishes keeps the sex fresh. There is nothing wrong with trying new things with someone you love. But being in a relationship for a few weeks and deciding to fulfill the fetish of your boyfriend/girlfriend is not so smart. Give the relationship time to flourish. It is all about the comfortableness. What is comfortable? If you can’t fart or tell your girlfriend/boyfriend that you are about to have a mean run in with the toilet then you are definitely not comfortable enough to let them stick that thing up your thing and lick it and partake in that kind of out of the ordinary sexual experience. Comfort takes time and it does not happen overnight. So don’t rush it and save it for your special, one and only someone because trust me those objects aren’t going anywhere!

The Written Words Of AJT