Valentine’s Day was yesterday and it came and went however the bitter individuals who consumed the holiday of love are still present. Just because you did not have a significant other to share the holiday with does not give you the right to put down others’ relationships and passion towards their love. Being bitter towards individuals who are in faithful, long lasting relationships only shows how miserable you are allowing your situation to make you. This is not to exclude your friends who just recently found love and you feel envious towards their new journey. You are supposed to be happy for them not jealous because love has not come knocking at your front door yet. That bitterness will eventually devour you and scare off anyone who has any intentions of being in a relationship with you. Your friends will notice your negativity towards their relationship and believe me they will not want anything to do with you either.
I understand that Valentine’s Day, when you are single, can be a day of mixed emotions. You assure yourself that you can still celebrate single but at the same time you would not mind having that someone special to cuddle with, go out to dinner or spend a romantic day with. We all get it because we have all been there before. I doubt that everyone has had a significant other every year on Valentine’s Day. The solution to your loneliness is not trying to add company to your misery or being miserable at all. Instead it is about acceptance. Accept the fact that you are single and enjoy it while you can. If you do not have anyone to give love to intimately then show love to your friends and family and to yourself. Even if you are single you are not exempt from loving gestures. Your relationship status should not cause you bitterness.
I know it seemed a little difficult to watch your friends post lovely statuses, pictures of their gifts and intimate pictures of them and their significant other. BUT if it makes you feel any better – THIS IS WHAT VALENTINE’S DAY IS ABOUT. It is about celebrating their love. And I know social networks can glorify relationships and make you think that these people have loving, amazing, problem – free love lives but the truth is that social networks hide reality. Relationships go through their ups and downs and no relationship is perfect. So get perfection and flawless love out of your mind. Seeing people pretend that their relationship is all flowers and daisies while you sit at home lonely can be tough but you have to keep in mind that many times people flaunt what they want instead of what they have. Do not get yourself caught up in the fantasy explanation of love. Do not get sucked into what people want you to believe. Let them live their life with their significant other and you enjoy your single world as much as you can now. Learn from your feelings of being single on Valentine's Day so that when you do get into a relationship you approach your single friends with a higher sense of compassion and consideration. When you find love invite one of your single friends out to dinner on Valentine’s Day instead of preserving a full day with your significant other. This is called being SELFLESS. This is a small gesture but goes a long way.
I think sometimes when our friends get into relationships they do not take into consideration the feelings of their single best friends. People just want to feel wanted, needed and loved. I hardly heard of anyone this Valentine’s Day saying “I sent flowers to my friend because even though she/he is single she brings me joy all year round and I love him/her”. Valentine’s Day is not just about intimate relationships but it was about ALL relationships and celebrating every inch of them. Did you leave your best friend out of your thoughts this year? Did you forget to tell them you appreciate them? Or did you brag about your love, your gift and how amazing and flawless your significant other is? Consideration people! Some of us lose it in the mist of a new relationship forgetting that at one point we were alone. Cherish ALL the love you have in your life and even if you forgot to acknowledge everyone yesterday, it is not too late to acknowledge them today!
The Written Words of AJT
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