"Keeping The Flame On The Physical Attraction"

Before we had love we used to go out the house looking GOOD searching for it. Ladies, you had those new 5 inch peep toe stilettos with a killer dress and matching jewelry, hairstyle was freshly assembled, and you looked the way a woman should. Men, you had a well-groomed exterior; hair freshly cut, beard trimmed and lined, clothes nicely fit and you KNEW you looked good. However, once we pull our special someone in, sometimes we get LAZY. And the well-dressed, beautiful exterior, killer sex appeal, that we used to pull in our significant other, sometimes withers. This should not happen! Getting a good man or woman is not difficult no matter how hard we may deem it to be. However, keeping a good partner satisfied comes with a lot of different aspects and one in general is always keeping them physically attracted to you no matter what stage of the relationship you are in.

Take into account what attracts your partner to you. Men, maybe your woman loves your sense of style. If you stop taking pride in your fashion sense and “clean” exterior it can cause your woman to lose that attraction. Woman, maybe your man loves when you come to bed with your hair unwrapped, dressed in sexy lingerie, well if you come to bed everyday in a face mask, wearing his boxers and a big t shirt, with your hair wrapped up in a messy pony tail or a “du- rag” sometimes your man will get turned off and instead of receiving that late night loving you get the quick cold shoulder! Appearance is not all that matters in a relationship however, it is important that the attraction stays fresh because without it, it can cause our eyes to wonder elsewhere. Satisfaction through the eye is important to the success of a relationship. Be so handsome, sexy, beautiful that when your partner glances at another they are not thinking how good that other individual looks but instead they are thinking “That’s nothing compared to what I got at home.”

I know that between the kids, the bills, the long hours at work and school it can be difficult to balance yourself. Sometimes you simply do not have time to hit the beauty salon, gym, barbershop, or nail salon like you would want to. And when we do get that free time we just want to stay at home and relax. But, there are ways to relax and still keep our partners attracted to our sexual exterior. Spas can help a great deal. And Men stop thinking that “it is too feminine to get a manicure or pedicure”. No woman wants to rub up against your rough feet in the sheets! Keeping yourself up means in every aspect of the way. Being manly does not mean looking “dirty “rough but believe it or not there are ways to be “handsome rough”. Take pride in how you look because when you do so your woman takes pride in her attraction towards you. And believe me you will be rewarded for your up grooming in amazing ways (wink).

Ladies there are a “workable” ways to go to bed beautiful without the headscarf or the messy ponytail. Surprise your man once in a while with your hair hanging, wearing those sexy panties he likes. Allow him to never forget the sexy woman he fell in love with. Put the kids to bed and give him a romantic night. (Then go put the head scarf back on or pin up the pony tail (lol) From personal experience, there are even ways to make the headscarf look attractive. Do not wrap it up messy but instead give it a nice tight look and wear sexy pajamas to bed. Show off your skin and give your man something smooth to caress through the night.

The bedroom is not the only place where attraction comes into play. When you and your sweetheart are going out make sure that you are complimenting them. Each of you should look just as good as the other. Another IMPORTANT fact to take into consideration is what your partner loves about you when you go out. Or lets flip it- Men, if you love your woman to wear dresses why not go out and buy her those dresses that you want to see her in. Woman- if you love your man to wear Polo or dress shirts go out and buy them for him. Some of us take into consideration the fact that we do not want to feel like we are “dressing our partners” or “being dressed by our partners”. However, whom else are you trying to look good for? The one person who you want to be attracted to you is your love NO ONE ELSE should matter. So if there is something that turns them on when you wear it, you should not be hesitant in satisfying that.

Keeping your partner attracted to you is vital to the overall success of your relationship. When we loose attraction to our partners it is hard for us to keep the flame burning and it can lead us to stray to other individuals outside of our homes. Staying crazy in love with one another comes from all areas, not just the mental, emotional attraction but also the physical. Letting ourselves go shows our lack of care in our personal exterior and after a while, if your partner notices your negligence, their negligence will be towards you. And unfortunately, you can find yourself going to bed with your partner expecting nothing- not a touch, not a feel, not a kiss because the attraction is beginning to perish. You do not want this for your relationship. Take care of yourself, and while doing so; you will keep that flame burning for you and your partner!

-The Written Words Of AJT